Living Life Beautifully

I've been trying to get my garden ready for planting.  It is a slow process. The garden is full of larkspur so I don't want my husband to trim it all down until they bloom.  For some reason they are taking their sweet time to bloom this year.  But it's so worth it. I have a bunch of things ready for the garden but have to finish cleaning out and prepping the garden boxes with garden soil and then there is the matter of deer proofing.  The hubby and I have devised a plan.  We a going to put up some really tall cedar along the fence line and wrap the entire garden with netting.  It will be tricky and if a gate ever gets left open and a deer gets in only to get startled and hurt itself getting out, I will be very upset.  So I think I will put springs on all the gates so they close on their own.   We shall see if it works.  Meanwhile I just keep taking Brink into the garden so he can mark it and hopefully that will keep the deer away until we get...

A while back ago, while having lunch with one of my favorite people, we started talking about something I have been learning through a counselor.  It is something I wish I had learned a long time ago, so I thought I would share. Sometimes being really nice, fair and accommodating....bites you in the rear.   Being someone who tries to please others, gives the other person permission to treat you like a servant.  You teach people how to treat you. I hold my husband back often from speaking his mind.  I'm always saying, "make sure you say it in a nice way so you don't upset anyone".  He has defended me or himself, without holding back, a few times and I have blamed him for the outcome, when in reality, he was right to defend and the outcome was due to the shock of seeing him in a way that no one has seen him before.  Some people get upset when a people pleaser speaks up for himself or herself.  They aren't used to it. In this last year we have had some cr...