Getting old is no fun
It was beautiful outside today. Perfect day for the windows to be open.
OK...eventful day.....
Bruce got a call this morning from my father in law, who fell late in the evening and couldn't get up. He slept on the floor through the night and finally crawled to the phone this morning. Bruce went to the house to get him and he's in the hospital for observation.
I tell ya...getting old is no fun. It's hard for my father in law because he has few people who are able to deal with him for a long period of time. He doesn't have the best personality. I'm so thankful he was able to make it to the phone. I'm not sure when we would have thought to check on him.
I hope my personality is decent when I get up there in age. It is so sad when friends or family aren't happy to see someone who is older in years. It's sad to have someone in the family who is so difficult to be around. It makes you feel bad for them, (until they say something that is hurtful). It makes you feel guilty. I don't like guilt. I don't like when people use guilt to get you to do something. I don't like when people feel you owe them for something they did for you or gave to you. That's probably why it's so hard for me to have anyone do something for me. I remember when I was little and my Omie gave me a piece of jewelry. Every time she saw me, for the next 10 years or more, she would look for that jewelry and ask why I wasn't wearing it. At Christmas you would go in your room and look for everything she gave you, your entire life, and put it all on so she wouldn't get upset with you.
I don't understand why people hold things over your head like that. If I give you something...I don't care what you do with it, I don't care if I ever see it again. If I do something for you....I don't need you to return the favor, I probably don't even WANT you to return the favor. If you need someone to cook for you...don't call me. If you need someone to drive you to San Antonio...don't call me. If you need advice on redecorating your living space or need someone to make you a baby quilt....I'm your girl. :) I would be more comfortable cleaning your house after a flood or installing Sheetrock with you than cooking a meal or babysitting your child.
I love that God gives us all gifts we can use to support ourselves, or help other with, and that the gifts are all different depending on the person.
I'm kinda shy by nature and have a hard time with new situations. When one of my kids says they want to invite a friend or girlfriend over, I get all nervous. Once I get used to the friend, I don't care what the house looks like or if I have makeup on or not. But until I get used to everything....I'm a nut. I wonder if I will be like that when I'm old. I hope I'm better by then.
I want to be one of those people that everyone enjoys being around. My Grandma Kraft always had a candy dish, soda in the frig, and three giant pillows, stacked on the floor by the tv, we could always play with.
I wanna be like that.
(OK Kraft family cousins...what color were the pillows?) :)
OK...eventful day.....
Bruce got a call this morning from my father in law, who fell late in the evening and couldn't get up. He slept on the floor through the night and finally crawled to the phone this morning. Bruce went to the house to get him and he's in the hospital for observation.
I tell ya...getting old is no fun. It's hard for my father in law because he has few people who are able to deal with him for a long period of time. He doesn't have the best personality. I'm so thankful he was able to make it to the phone. I'm not sure when we would have thought to check on him.
I hope my personality is decent when I get up there in age. It is so sad when friends or family aren't happy to see someone who is older in years. It's sad to have someone in the family who is so difficult to be around. It makes you feel bad for them, (until they say something that is hurtful). It makes you feel guilty. I don't like guilt. I don't like when people use guilt to get you to do something. I don't like when people feel you owe them for something they did for you or gave to you. That's probably why it's so hard for me to have anyone do something for me. I remember when I was little and my Omie gave me a piece of jewelry. Every time she saw me, for the next 10 years or more, she would look for that jewelry and ask why I wasn't wearing it. At Christmas you would go in your room and look for everything she gave you, your entire life, and put it all on so she wouldn't get upset with you.
I don't understand why people hold things over your head like that. If I give you something...I don't care what you do with it, I don't care if I ever see it again. If I do something for you....I don't need you to return the favor, I probably don't even WANT you to return the favor. If you need someone to cook for you...don't call me. If you need someone to drive you to San Antonio...don't call me. If you need advice on redecorating your living space or need someone to make you a baby quilt....I'm your girl. :) I would be more comfortable cleaning your house after a flood or installing Sheetrock with you than cooking a meal or babysitting your child.
I love that God gives us all gifts we can use to support ourselves, or help other with, and that the gifts are all different depending on the person.
I'm kinda shy by nature and have a hard time with new situations. When one of my kids says they want to invite a friend or girlfriend over, I get all nervous. Once I get used to the friend, I don't care what the house looks like or if I have makeup on or not. But until I get used to everything....I'm a nut. I wonder if I will be like that when I'm old. I hope I'm better by then.
I want to be one of those people that everyone enjoys being around. My Grandma Kraft always had a candy dish, soda in the frig, and three giant pillows, stacked on the floor by the tv, we could always play with.
I wanna be like that.
(OK Kraft family cousins...what color were the pillows?) :)
Great post girl! The thought is so true. I believe strongly that how we are as adults in our 40's and up to our 70's is really who we will be older than that, but to a more extreme level. Guess that is why we need to continue to work on ourselves so much now to become all God wants us to be so that we are trying to keep people away when we are old. :o)
ReplyDeleteI will always want to be around you! No matter what! Love you friend.
Just so ya know....
ReplyDeleteI wasn't complaining about anyone in this post, I was just wondering if I will end up doing the same thing when I get old.
I hope I don't use guilt with my kids or have a bad attitude. I have used both in the past, but I'm trying to do better.
I want my family to WANT to have me around.
I guess we all look at the people we grow up with and try to do better.
Hugs.
Shannon